What we do know is that when it comes to sex, men and women lie ESTHER PEREL: Of losing everything. They used to be the possession of men. Look, infidelity has been practically a license for men throughout history all over the world. When you talk about previous relationships, you ask ESTHER PEREL: They have privilege, that’s it. Male privilege allowed them to do this almost with impunity. Then we had all kinds of theories that came to explain why men are natural